Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Graduation - During & After

"Graduation day is tough for adults. They go to the ceremony as parents. They come home as contemporaries. After eighteen years of child-raising, they are unemployed." -Erma Bombeck


Jessica's graduation was one of those surreal experiences. I try to not look too far into the future. It makes me anxious. It rocks my world too much. My child's graduation day always seemed like one of those nebulous distant possibilities. To have it upon me left me in a bit of a fog. But it was a happy fog. An "I can't believe this is really happening!" fog. 

Jessica was one of the last students into the stadium. Pomp and Circumstance filled the room. Jessica reminded us that this is really a nice piece of music if only they would play the entire piece.

This young man was one of the speakers. He reminded me almost eerily of the pictures I've seen of my father as a young man. I pointed this out to Mom, and she gasped at the likeness. I wish Dad could have been here to see his first granddaughter graduate. 

He gave the typical speech. You know, all kinds of talk about the world being our oyster, and we can do anything if we work hard enough, and the future is bright. Such words are appropriate. Let these young people have their moment. They've earned it. They have yet to learn that their greatest struggles lay before them. That most of them will end up ordinary people with ordinary jobs and ordinary lives. That many of them will find themselves sitting in this very stadium in a couple of decades, a few pounds heavier with a few more wrinkles gracing their tired faces, waiting for their graduate to walk the stage, and that they might say to themselves, "Why didn't anyone tell me that this is the greatest work I would ever do? That this is where I would be proudest and most pleased with my life?" Such truths must unfold gradually.



We sat in the audience with grandparents and with the Howell family and watched two cousins receive their diplomas. Evan was first thanks to a last name placed conveniently at the first half of the alphabet.



We end-of-the-alphabet dwellers waited patiently our turn. We listened to over-enthusiastic family members cheer and ring cowbells for their graduate, muffling out the name of the next graduate, even though they were constantly being reminded to please be respectful and hold applauses until the end of the ceremony. We rule-followers just shook our heads and commented on the obvious reasons our society seems to be overflowing with deviants. We just hoped the place wouldn't be completely distracted by the time they got to the W's. Whether they were or not, I didn't notice because all seemed silent as I caught my last glimpse of Jessica as a high school student.


My heart fluttered a little bit as her image showed up on the big screen. I'm sure I was the only parent in the stadium to think that I had the most beautiful graduate in the room. Neil got a little teary-eyed.


Her name was announced, we all cheered inside if not out loud, she took her diploma cover, shook a few hands...

 
And that was it. Thirteen years of work, over and done with. She made it successfully through the school system. "We did it," Neil said, "One in a row!"


The ceremonial tassel switching took place.


A few caps were flung.


You can see the absolute jubilation as Jessica waved at her siblings as she waited to be one of the last people out of the stadium.


This is my very favorite picture!


By the time the ceremony was over, the clouds had dispersed, allowing for those lovely sun-saturated post-graduation photos that I love so much. But you have to capture the after-graduation energy. There's nothing quite like it.


How fun for Grandpa to watch both of his grandchildren graduate together. How we wish Grandma had been here to see this.



These kids sure do look up to their big sister! She has blazed a nice strong path for them to follow.


Cousins!


I'll admit that I'm a little jealous that Kelly and Teresa had just watched their baby graduate, while I still have seven long years in the school system yet to endure. They've paid their dues, as we all must.



As grandpa Watson is just about finished watching high school graduations, this set of grandparents is just getting started. Two down, at least thirty-three to go. 




We finished the afternoon with a celebratory lunch at Union Station Grill. 





Followed by one last celebratory ice cream. Our family has single-handedly kept Farr's ice cream in business this year. There was no shortage of photo bombs this carefree Thursday afternoon. 



One more shot minus the photo-bombers.



This is what it's all about. These are the pay-off moments. This is why we parents get up every morning and do what we do day in and day out, for just such an afternoon. There sit two very happy if not slightly fatigued parents, one step closer to unemployment, and quite frankly glad it's still a ways off.


Graduation - Before

"Just about a month from now I'm set adrift, with a diploma for a sail and lots of nerves for oars." 
-Richard Halliburton


I'm going to break this post up because this mama tends to take an obscene number of photos then gets sentimentally attached to every one of them and has a hard time not including 2500 pictures with every post.

Yes, my firstborn graduated from high school just under two weeks ago. As I ironed her gown, I was pretty sure it was the very gown I wore as a Layton High graduate just last year, or wait, has it really been 21 years? How did this happen? 

Jessica wanted some photos with her friends. I generally hate graduation day photos. They are usually sun saturated with every face washed out and every set of eyes two black shadows. I have trained Jessica well, and she is much more lighting conscientious than the average teenage girl. She convinced her friends to meet before the ceremony so that the lighting would be better and so that they wouldn't have to locate each other among the masses after the ceremony. Once again, the heavens seemed to be smiling upon Jessica, as there was cloud cover graduation morning allowing for the perfect lighting for photographing this cute bunch of graduates.


I always say that my two favorite age groups to photograph are newborns and high school seniors. It should be fairly evident why as you peruse these cute cute pictures.



I began shooting, and slowly more and more friends started showing up, each one being greeted enthusiastically by their peers.


Some of these kids have been friends since elementary school, many since junior high, and this group of twenty or so kids have been inseparable since sophomore year, exchanging texts and dance dates over the last three years. They have gloried in the triumphs and sorrowed in the tragedies of high school life together.



I have watched them transform from awkward sophomores to beautiful young adults.




I would be lying if I said that they've lost their goofiness over the years. Perhaps they have simply fine-tuned their humor to a certain level of wittiness that will serve them well as they enter the adult world. They will need that humor.






These are good kids. It is apparent by the cords and ribbons and medals and pins hanging around their necks. These are kids that would get up early on late-start days to go to the temple before school, kids I never worried about Jessica hanging out with on a weekend. Many of these boys already have mission calls. I strongly believe that each generation is more noble than the one that preceded it, and this group of kids is evidence of such a notion.

Jessica had to get a picture with Sabrina, as they are twinners when it comes to accomplishments. Same cords and medals and pins.


Orchestra buddies and best friends since junior high. They will miss each other as they move on to different colleges.


Neil was dubbed the care-taker of the purses during the photo shoot. He has always been the quiet supporter, standing in the background, helping in simple ways, but always present. This photo is all the better as he seems to have antennae sticking out of his head. Yes, I'm that kind of photographer.


We had to sneak one picture together with our beautiful graduate. These are the mommy and daddy payoff moments. Eighteen years of work come to fruition on days like this.



This is what all the blood, sweat, and tears was for. The hours and hours of studying for AP exams, the getting up at the crack of dawn to finish an essay, the drama over getting asked to Prom or not, the teenage highs and lows, and the hoop-jumping for certain unreasonable teachers. It was all endured and endured well for this culminating moment where this little band of friends earned the privilege to do the Toyota Jump or, to coin a more appropriate term for this generation, to have this High School Musical Moment. Because they were all in this together, and from this point on one person after another will begin to step away from the group as they pursue their own paths.






It was one of those wonderful mornings, not just because of the lighting but because of the light in this beautiful young woman's eyes. This beautiful young woman that we were given the privilege to have some tiny hand in her upbringing. She was God's daughter before she was ours, and He helped us raise her, and because He is a perfect parent, she turned out better than we ever could have hoped for.